A woman reached out online for advice after being left uncomfortable following her initial visit to her date’s home, which she branded ‘gross’.
Visiting your date’s home can often provide greater insight into their personality – revealing things about them that’s not always shown when going out for meals or drinks.
Dating is all about getting to know each other, embracing both their virtues and flaws, and finding out how well-suited your are. But how should you respond if your discoveries leave you “getting the ick”?
Seeking guidance on a Mumsnet forum, the concerned dater asked if her reaction was justified after being taken aback by the shocking condition of her date’s bathroom during her first visit to his house.
“I’ve been seeing this guy for a month, he seemed pretty sorted, good job, intelligent etc.,” she said. “BUT went round to his house last night for the first time and I was shocked at the state of his bathroom, he was off yesterday and knew I was coming round a few days in advance so he easily could have cleaned it.”
In her post, she disclosed that while she didn’t wish to elaborate on the entire scene, the presence of hair strewn across the floor and a repulsive toilet were distressing discoveries.
“I feel a bit sick thinking about it and I didn’t even want to go in there to use the toilet,” she shared. “How could he go into his bathroom and think it was ok to let a potential date go into that, wasn’t he embarrassed, obviously not!”
Revealing her date wants to see her again, she expressed uncertainty about what to do as the state of his bathroom had put her off. She asked for advice on whether she was overreacting. However, other forum users quickly reassured her that her reaction was justified.
One person commented: “You don’t expect to have to train an adult man about keeping their bathroom clean. One month in so it’s not a serious relationship yet- I’d dump him. But if he asks why I’d be honest.”
Another said: “Of course it would put absolutely every person in the planet off I would hope,” while a third remarked: “Oh goodness, that’s repulsive. To say it would put me off would be putting it mildly. I’d run a mile.”
The woman responded to the supportive comments, adding: “Fair enough if he’s living on his own to have bathroom like that, but to have a woman round and go into that, pretty shameful and revealing of his character too. I don’t want to describe what the toilet was like but you can use your imagination.”