While it’s entirely your choice what you do with your body, some decisions warrant a conversation with your partner.
We all have autonomy over our bodies and the liberty to decide what we want to do with them. If you fancy getting piercings or tattoos, that’s your call, regardless of others’ opinions. However, certain things should be discussed with your significant other if you have one.
Changes that impact your reproductive system, such as opting for a vasectomy or long-term birth control, should be talked about, especially since they may impact your ability to start a family. This is why one woman was left seething when she found out her husband had secretly donated his sperm after she’d explicitly expressed her disapproval. While it’s his body, she feels her sentiments should have been considered, and she’s furious that she was disregarded.
In a Reddit post, the woman revealed her husband had previously donated sperm when two friends struggling to conceive approached them. Both she and her husband signed a donor agreement for that specific pregnancy, resulting in the couple welcoming healthy twins.
Shortly afterwards, the woman and her husband fell out with the couple, deeming them “toxic” after they were treated poorly. Despite this, two years ago, the couple approached her husband to donate sperm again to give their twins a sibling. The woman was against it, and thought the matter was settled until she discovered her husband went ahead without her consent.
She explained: “I spoke to my husband, and we agreed, firmly, that it was not a good idea. This morning, I grabbed my husband’s phone. I needed to get some medicine, so I just needed to get a little money for that. So I did and sent it to my account. While I was doing this, I saw that he had received money from them.
“I looked at his messages to see if he had been in contact with them. He had. They contacted him again, behind my back and offered money. They mentioned to my husband that I would pose a problem to this, and he specifically told them that my opinion was not valid.”
She confronted her husband, who retorted that he didn’t need her “permission to make money”. Now, she’s reeling from the betrayal and trust issues that have arisen.
Online commenters supported the woman, agreeing that the betrayal and secrecy were the real issues, not the act of sperm donation itself.
One individual expressed their dismay, saying: “This isn’t just about sperm; it’s about betrayal, disrespect, and dismissing your feelings in a way that undermines your trust and partnership.” Another said: “I would divorce my husband if he did this. He intentionally went behind your back AFTER he agreed it wasn’t a good idea so he could make money?!? He let them badmouth you and STILL went through with it!”.