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Move over, drunk sex. Sober sex is all the rage, according to new data.
An Australian survey showed that the number of Aussies drinking alcohol has been slowly decreasing in recent years (aside from a slight uptick during the 2020-21 pandemic lockdown.) Additionally, statistics shared by adult store Lovehoney shows that while 69% of Aussies have sex under the influence, 51% prefer having sex when sober.
“More Australians are recognizing the impact alcohol has on their sexual experiences and relationships,” Sydney sex therapist Christine Rafe said, according to the New York Post, adding that “as a result, they’re choosing to engage in sober sex more often.
“This shift shows that people are becoming more intentional about their sexual connections,” Rafe told news.com.au.
“They want to feel present and engaged, which can lead to more meaningful and satisfying experiences with their partners.
“Without alcohol dulling their senses or clouding their judgment, they’re also more in tune with their desires and able to communicate those clearly.”
Ditching booze can have a profound effect on partnerships, Rafe said.
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“Without the haze of alcohol, you’re better able to engage with your partner, respond to their cues, and understand your own body,” Lovehoney’s sex and relationship expert added.
“This heightened awareness naturally boosts self-confidence, as you feel more in control and assured.
“Sober sex also fosters intimacy – when you’re not under the influence, you’re more emotionally available, which helps you connect with your partner on a deeper level. The clarity and mutual presence that sober sex offers allow for better communication, more trust, and ultimately, a stronger bond between partners.”
The research also showed that fewer people are engaging in one-night stands.
Australia historically has one of the highest rates of casual sex in the world – 2023 data showed that 64% of men and 52% of women admit to having engaged in a one-night stand.
But the Lovehoney research revealed 24% of Aussies who have participated in the casual sex act did so while drinking.
Of those surveyed, 16% said they have had a negative experience during drunk sex, while 7% claimed they prefer sex while intoxicated.
“I think it’s important to acknowledge that everyone’s experiences with alcohol and sex are different, and there’s no ‘one-size-fits-all’ approach,” Rafe added.
“For some, alcohol can serve as a tool for relaxation, but it’s worth exploring how sober sex could enhance your relationship and personal experience on a more sustained and long-term basis.
“Many people find that once they try it, they actually prefer sober sex because of the clarity, control, and intimacy it offers. It’s all about discovering what works best for you and your partner and being open to trying new approaches to your sexual wellness.”