A 20-year-old woman in a relationship with a 61-year-old man has shared the painful response from her mother upon discovering the nature of her romantic life.
The young woman, who admits to being drawn to “older men” knew it was love at first sight with her partner who is 41 years her senior.
Despite her feelings, her mother is far from thrilled, holding the belief that her daughter should be with someone closer to her own age. Sharing her story on Reddit, the woman recounted: “I have been questioned why I like older men. I have been told by my parents that I’m messed up and there is something seriously wrong with me.
“Once they found out I don’t find anyone under the age of 40 attractive they freaked out. My mother cried and said she failed me and she’s so sorry she messed me up.” She also mentioned receiving threats towards herself and her boyfriend, which has led her to pull away from her social circles and family members.
“I don’t know why the world is filled with so much hate and I will never understand why people feel so entitled to force their opinion on others lives. The judgment is terrible. Even though they are great parents every other area and I love them dearly, me and my boyfriend want to move nine hours away to the mountains and live a quiet life together.”
The couple’s desire to escape the scrutiny and live peacefully in the mountains reflects their need for acceptance and understanding in a situation that challenges societal norms. The couple has faced intense scrutiny over their relationship from various quarters, including friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers. However, she has learned to disregard other people’s opinions and prioritize her own happiness.
Her partner brings her immense joy, making her feel like she’s in a world filled with love and pleasure. When she shared her story online, the reaction was mixed. One user, a 64 year old man in a relationship with a 31 year old woman, shared his own experience, saying: “I’m 64 and my girlfriend is 31. We have a wonderful relationship. I could care less what others think. Her parents adore me. They know I love her and treat her like my queen.”
He continued, “We vibe in every way possible. The town we live in seems to have no issues with it (small town). They almost treat us like celebrities. We go to restaurants everyone knows us and remembers us. Because we aren’t the typical couple you normally see. We haven’t had one bad experience. And we’ve been together for five years.”
Another user chimed in, offering words of encouragement: “You state that this man loves you and gives you pleasure. I assume you give the same to him. While I understand how important your family and friends are to you, the relationship you share with this man is the one that defines the rest of your life. There are so many people out there who lack a relationship at all or have one that is unhealthy and causes them nothing but pain and stress.
“It sounds like yours makes both of you very happy. Honestly, this seems like a very easy choice to me. A third user said: I don’t blame your parents. I don’t even know you but just by reading this I’m concerned for you. Still though it’s out of my control.”
A third user expressed: “It sounds like yours makes both of you very happy. Honestly, this seems like a very easy choice to me. A third user said: I don’t blame your parents. I don’t even know you but just by reading this I’m concerned for you. Still though it’s out of my control.”
“Just don’t come back in a few years with regrets and putting all males in the same category, still I don’t understand why someone as young as you will be OK with moving to the mountains unless you grow up there.”