It goes without saying that your wedding day should be all about you and your partner.
It’s a celebration of love – but can be difficult to navigate when members of a couple’s circle start sticking their oars in. Sometimes, the path to that special day can be a minefield of odd demands and expectations from family members who are determined to make the day perfect for them – even if the newlyweds aren’t keen on their choices.
This is what one bride-to-be is currently facing – as her future in-laws came to her with an outrageous request. She explained her fiancé has a “very traditional” family.
They’re so traditional that they don’t seem to like anything that’s a bit different. As such, they’ve asked if she can wear contact lenses on her wedding day – to cover up her “unnerving” natural eye colour.
The bride has “very light grey-blue” eyes – and has been told before they can be “too intense”. So her in-laws have demanded she wear coloured contacts to make her eyes brown, as they’re allegedly worried she’ll ruin her own wedding photos if her natural eye colour is on display.
In a post on Reddit, she said: “His family is very traditional, and recently his mom pulled me aside and kindly suggested that I wear coloured contacts on my wedding day because my ‘icy’ eyes might look ‘too intense’ in the photos and ‘soft brown would be more elegant’. I laughed it off, thinking it was a weird joke.
“But then my fiancé brought it up too, saying his family thinks it would look better if I went with a more ‘warm and inviting’ look for our wedding day. I told him absolutely not – this is my natural eye colour, and I’m not going to alter my appearance just to please his family. He said it’s not a big deal and that he doesn’t personally care, but he thinks I should do it just to ‘keep the peace’.”
Now, the woman’s in-laws are accusing her of being “difficult” over something they consider to be “small”, as they don’t see a problem with their demand. But the bride doesn’t want to have to change her appearance to please anyone – especially not on her wedding day.
Commenters are firmly on her side, too, with many saying she shouldn’t have to change the way she looks. One person said: “What a weird ask. That is very offensive to your actual colour. It’s rude to be honest.” Another added: “Ask them (especially your spineless fiancé) if your future children will have to wear contacts their entire lives so as not to unnerve anyone.”
And a third wrote: “I’ve never heard of such an asinine request in my whole life, and I’m 70. The fact your fiancé is agreeing is very disrespectful as well. I would stick to my guns here, and if he doesn’t like it, maybe the wedding should be postponed at the very least.”