Tattoos serve as a unique means of self-expression.
Although not everyone appreciates tattoos, for those who do, they can significantly boost confidence and comfort in one’s own skin, similar to personal style choices or hair colours. However, a 53-year-old woman who has accumulated seven tattoos over the past three years was astonished when her husband of over 25 years became infuriated upon learning of her impending eighth tattoo.
The couple’s differing views on tattoos were evident; she adored how they made her feel, while her husband was clearly disapproving. His reaction escalated to accusations of her “changing herself drastically” and nearing a point where he would no longer find her attractive – merely because she had scheduled another tattoo appointment without his consent.
The woman detailed her situation on Reddit: “Yesterday, I told him I made an appointment for another tattoo. He told me I needed to consider that he married me when I had zero tattoos, and I am changing myself drastically. He also said I am quickly reaching the limit where he will no longer find me attractive.
“To be clear, I work and the money I spend for tattoos isn’t coming from joint funds or money needed to pay bills. His argument is strictly about how he feels about my body and how I am choosing to decorate it.”
The woman also mentioned that he disapproves of her short haircuts, leading her to perceive him as “controlling.” Despite this, her husband feels his objections are valid since she is making “drastic permanent changes” to her body without considering his emotions.
The mother-of-two explained that some tattoos serve to conceal scars, enhancing her self-esteem. She argues that her husband shouldn’t have the authority over decisions regarding her body.
Opinions among commenters were divided. While they concurred that she has autonomy over her body, many acknowledged that her husband is entitled to his preferences and could even end the marriage over these alterations if he chose to.
One commenter remarked: “You’re free to get tattoos and he’s free to dislike it/leave. It’s not that deep.” Another stated: “You don’t have to consult him to do something to your body. He doesn’t have to find you attractive if you make changes to your body.”