Discovering that your partner has been dishonest can be a devastating blow.
Trust is the bedrock of any relationship, and when significant lies break it, it can be hard to rebuild. This is often the case when one party has been unfaithful after months or years of a seemingly happy romance.
However, one woman found out her boyfriend had been deceiving her throughout their entire six-month relationship, leading a secret double life without her knowledge. Sharing her story on Reddit, she explained that their relationship started casually. He was a business owner focused on stabilising his company, so they met whenever he had free time.
A few months in, she asked him if he was seeing anyone else or if he wanted to continue their relationship. He revealed he had a medical issue that might prevent him from having children and was due for surgery that week. She offered to accompany him to the hospital, but he insisted on going alone, which she respected.
Recently, while he was away for a funeral, he unexpectedly messaged her, promising a dinner date upon his return. Following that, he shared several photos from his trip, inadvertently including one of himself with another woman.
She recounted: “I was excited but then after an hour, he sent me a few photos of places he has been to and at the very last photo was him and another woman. His arms were wrapped around her and the photo was obviously taken by his drone. I asked him if his mother came with him. The answer I got was ‘oh haha, that woman was really close to me’.”
The woman initially felt “disgusted” with herself, suspecting he had been cheating on her behind her back. However, the reality was even more shocking – the woman in the picture was his wife, revealing his six-month secret double life.
She continued: “Now my friends and family are pushing me to contact his wife and tell her about the affair. In my mind, I think that I don’t want drama anymore, but then, at the same time, I feel bad because the wife is probably oblivious to everything. Morally, it is wrong, but then, at the same time, ignorance is bliss.”
Online commenters have been encouraging her to inform the man’s wife about the affair, arguing that she has a right to know about her husband’s deceitful actions.
One wrote: “The wife deserves to know she’s married to a cheater. You’re a good person who ended the relationship as soon as you found out. There also might be children involved that’s why he came up with the no kids story. Send her what proof you have. You do not have to meet her or anything. Do it from a distance; always think of your safety first.”
Another shared their personal experience: “I was in your shoes many years ago and decided to walk away without saying anything because I did not want the drama and I did not want others to judge me (did not even tell my family! ) I always regretted not messing up his life the way he messed up mine.”