A mother has expressed her anger after her son was insulted by his girlfriend’s father.
To provide context, she explained her son and his girlfriend have been “on and off for four years”. During this time, they broke up twice due to infidelity on both sides when they were intoxicated, as she detailed in a Mumsnet post.
Despite their rocky past, the couple always find their way back to each other, as they “love each other, and are extremely well-suited, prefer each other to anybody else, and have a great time together”.
The mother shared the pair reconciled most recently in October, deciding their past mistakes were due to their youth and immaturity. Now they’re both older, they wish to commit to each other and remain faithful fully.
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While the future of their relationship remains uncertain, the mother said she was hopeful and supportive, wishing them happiness. However, her son’s girlfriend’s father does not share the same sentiment towards their relationship.
Her son’s girlfriend’s father labelled him a “cheating weasel” and has barred him from entering his house since October.
The mum wrote: “This means that my son and his girlfriend spend most of their time in my house, where they are both absolutely welcome. I cook the girlfriend endless meals, look after her when she’s ill, and take her out for dinner when the whole family is going out.”
She believes in an open-door policy at home, stating: “My attitude is that anyone my children love is welcome at home (within reason, obviously I wouldn’t welcome a serial killer) and if my son holds no grudge for previous cheating (which would be a bit rich since he did the same!) then I certainly don’t either. It’s his home too and therefore up to him.”
The mother expressed her inability to comprehend how the girlfriend’s father could not feel deeply embarrassed by his actions, especially when they had accepted his daughter back with “open arms”.
“I also cannot understand how the girlfriend’s mother can go along with this terrible policy. I’ve decided if my son and his girlfriend ever split up, I’m going to write her parents a letter and tell them exactly what I think of them. I’ve also decided that neither her father nor her mother is welcome in my house – not that this should ever be an issue,” she declared furiously.
In the comments section, opinions were divided on a woman’s involvement in her son’s relationship. One commenter advised: “You’re over-involved. Writing them a letter if your son and girlfriend ever broke up is over the top. Are you absolutely sure her parents are even aware she cheated, too? Stay well out of it.”
Another person suggested taking a step back: “I think you’re very invested in what you describe as an adult relationship and perhaps would benefit from stepping back. Ultimately, whether you agree or disagree, it is the parent’s house, and they have a prerogative over who enters it.”
The same individual added: “They may have been told a very different story to what you were told. Who knows. Leave your son to manage his own relationships and fight his own battles. This one isn’t yours to take on.”
A further comment raised the possibility of differing narratives: “Your son’s girlfriend may have fed her parents a somewhat… altered story about the constant break ups and get-togethers. She may have edited her part. Maybe your son has told you another story that’s not quite ‘true’ (although I would have thought that she would have put you right by now).”
Concluding with a note on boundaries, the commenter stated, “But actually – it’s none of your business. They are 20. By all means, make her comfortable in your home, but stay out of her parents’ relationship with her. You only know what you are being told.”