Psychologist William Schutz who created the “FIRO-B” relational psychometric said that social connection was as important as food and water to living life well. However, he also added that it was important to recognise that the amount of social contact varies from person to person — some may be like a ‘hot house lily’ — craving attention and connectivity; others may be a bit more ‘like a cactus’ — happy that there’s another cactus…a sand dune away. This reflects the Jungian approach to Introversion and Extraversion — it’s not that an introvert can’t host an event or dance on a table…they can, and will likely be skilled enough to do it well; and similarly an extrovert can work all day in a library — BUT where they are most energized differs with the extrovert preferring lots of stimulation and the introvert at peace in their own company or with a close loved one.