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With so many singles out there, you’d think it would be easy — mathematically speaking, even logical — to find someone.
But all it takes is to know someone — or be someone — who keeps hitting dead ends online and on dating apps.
But are dating pools dried up or are you just not conveying what you want — and more importantly — who you want?
Yes, online dating can be a slog, but aside from putting yourself out there, you also need to know exactly what you’re looking for.
Whether you are creative enough to come up with the perfect words to sell yourself or you need some assistance — sites like RizzBio create unique dating bios to help you shine — do whatever is best for you.
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“A good bio balances humour, a clear sense of self, and honesty,” relationship expert Dr. Callisto Adams told The Toronto Sun, adding that people should share a unique fact or a little quirk that shows off their personality.
“Avoid clichés like ‘I love to laugh’ or ‘I’m just looking for someone who’s fun,’ because those don’t really say anything specific,” she advised.
Plus, it’s stating the obvious: Who wants a dud with no sense of humour?
“A good profile should highlight passions and show a bit of vulnerability, making the person relatable,” Adams said.
Ultimately, be yourself — but at the same time, keep some things to yourself, especially in the early days.
“Mention hobbies or values, but avoid writing a laundry list of requirements for a potential partner — because that can feel off-putting,” she noted.
“It’s best to skip negativity, like stating what you don’t want in a partner, as it sets a bad tone.”
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Have a good variety in there, “showing yourself doing something you enjoy as it helps create conversation starters,” Adams suggested.
Avoid too many selfies and try one that shows the full you (not in that way, naughty), so people have a better idea of your general appearance beyond just your face.
Also, drop the filters and “aim for natural, well-lit pictures.”
“The first picture should be clear and friendly — ideally smiling and looking approachable,” Adams said, while group photos, especially as the main image, should be avoided since it forces people to have to guess who you are.
She also recommended that guys ditch the fishing shots: “They tend to be polarizing!”
It’s not just about making a good first impression, but also wanting a person to stick around.
“When answering dating prompts, be specific, share genuine passions and interests,” Adams suggested.
Also, showing vulnerability is a good thing, when a funny twist, like, “I can’t cook, but I make the best bowl of cereal.”
She added: “Authenticity always makes you more memorable.”